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Bringing Home a Second Baby - 2: Welcome!

Welcoming home a new baby is a wonderful time for all family members and friends to celebrate. This fact sheet offers suggestions for two-parent and other families. In some families, mom and grandparents welcome a new baby. In other families, birth parents may welcome the baby with partners, adoptive parents, godparents, friends, or others. This fact sheet offers suggestions to help all brothers and sisters in all families welcome a new baby.

 

Tips for Meeting New Baby in Hospital

  • Arrange to have new baby in bassinet or in newborn nursery when older child visits so that mother's arms are open for older child.
  • Make sure mother gives hugs and kisses to older child before holding baby.
  • Have a partner or other family members introduce older child to baby.

 

More Tips for Meeting Baby

On the next page are things for parents to do and say to help brothers and sisters welcome a new baby.

 

Research

A loving relationship (secure attachment) with parents is important to sibling relationships. Secure attachment to mother is related to less sibling aggression to the new baby (Volling, 2017). Children with very involved fathers also show less separation anxiety after a new baby joins the family (Volling, Steinberg, & Kuo, 2020). These important findings emphasize the importance of parents' loving, responsive care for young children. Further, they suggest educational programs focused on such care may help children adjust to the birth of a new baby.

 

A woman and toddler holding a baby.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Books to read with older children about younger siblings

Church, Caroline Jayne (2015). I am a big sister.. New York: Carwheel Books.

Church, Caroline Jayne (2015). I am a big brother. New York: Cartwheel Books.

Fuller, Rachel. (2009). My new baby. Child's Play International.

Keats, Ezra Jack. (1967). Peter's chair. New York: Harper & Row (Viking).

Penn, Audrey. (2006). A pocket full of kisses. Indianapolis: Tanglewood.

 

References

American Academy of Pediatrics (2019). How to prepare your older children for a new baby. https://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/prenatal/Pages/Preparing-Your-Family-for-a-New-Baby.aspx

 

American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology (2017). Planned home birth. Committee Opinion No. 697. Obstetrics and Gynecology, 129, e117-e122.

 

Dunn, J., Kendrick C., & MacNamee, R. (1981). The reaction of first-born children to the birth of a sibling: Mothers' reports. Child Psychology & Psychiatry & Allied Disciplines, 22, 1-18

 

Hoffman, K., Cooper, G., Powell, B., Benton, C. M., & Siegel, D.J. (2017). Raising a secure child: How Circle of Security parenting can help you nurture your child's attachment, emotional resilience, and freedom to explore. New York, NY: Guilford Press.

 

Steinberg, L. (2004). The ten basic principles of good parenting. New York: Simon & Schuster.

 

Volling, B. L. (2017). XI. General discussion: Children's adjustment and adaptation following the birth of a sibling. Monographs of the Society for Research in Child Development, 82, 142-158.

 

Volling, B. L., Steinberg E. J., Kuo P. X. (2020) Is it easier the second time around? Fathers' roles across the transition from one child to two. In Fitzgerald H. E., von Klitzing K., Cabrera N. J., Sacrano de Medonça J., Skjøthaug T. (eds) Handbook of Fathers and Child Development, pp. 245-265 Springer, Cham.

 

  What to Do What to Say
When baby is delivered in hospital*    
  Arrange to have new baby in newborn nursery when older child visits, so they can help the other parent bring baby to mom. "Thank you for bringing [baby's name] to me! What was he/she doing when you went to the nursery? What did you do?"
At home    
  When mom and baby return, have other parent or grandparent carry baby so mom's arms are free to hug older child. "I am so glad to be home with you! Would you like to help grandma put [baby's name] in their crib?"
  Feed new baby on couch so there is room for older child too (and grandparents or others). "Would you like to feed your doll baby while I feed [baby's name]?"
  Plan activities with special people (dad, grandparents, friends, sitters). "Do you know what you get to do today? You and Daddy get to go to the park to play with Sammy!"
  Plan one-on-one activities for older child while new baby is sleeping or being fed by someone else. "I am so glad that I get to read with you. Would you like to read Brown Bear, Brown Bear or Giraffes Can't Dance?"
  Let people bring toys and food or help. Say, "yes" when people offer to help!

*Some families prefer out-of-hospital births. See American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology (2017) for recommendations for positive outcomes.

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