Steps for Parents to Take to Maintain Routines
| What to do | What to say | |
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| State clear rules and limits and provide reasons. | “I know you want to jump on the bed. But beds are for sleeping. You may go in the
backyard and jump as much as you like.” [Age: 2 to 5 years] “The rule is you put dirty clothes in the hamper because in our family we keep rooms clean.” [Age: 4 to 19] |
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| Re-establish clear routines for meals and bedtimes. | “Remember dinner will be at 6:30. Don’t forget that your teacher sent home some homework and bedtime is still 8:00 p.m.” [Age: 5 to 10/11] | |
| Encourage friendships. | “Let’s invite Susan to Skype with you.” [Age: 4 to 10/11] | |
| Encourage physical activity. | “Let’s set up a track around the backyard. You can race with me now and then I will
turn it into a garden path!” “Do you remember the old bicycle in the garage? I found a youtube video showing how to make a wooden stand to turn it into a stationary exercise bike. Would you like to make it together and then you can ride at home?” |
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| Encourage helping others. | “Would you like to make cards for your great-grandmother and her friends in the nursing home? We an make a video of them and send the video to Susan, the social worker, for everyone to see!” [Ages 3 to 12] |
Erin Ratliff
Human Development and Family Science doctoral student
Other sources: Active Parenting First Five Years, Active Parenting Ages 5 to 12.